This is the best place to come to when you need help. We have loads of articles that are written by experienced and qualified experts (not the usual stuff you see on an article directory written by a child or an inexperienced and unqualified person. We only accept articles that are written by experts on their subjects who work as professionals. Just as we only accept the very best to work with our team of hand picked staff who guide and solve problems for our clients. If you want guidance without paying you can get that by reading our excellent articles but you can also consult our expert auntie for personal 1 2 1s where they can help you as an individual with your own individual problems which are specific to you. Worried about work? business? finances? making a big decision? splitting from a partner? choosing a new lover? these and many more can be answered individually according to YOU and your own specific circumstances. The downside to using a forum is that whatever you read there is written by someone who is not an expert or a professional and does not know all of the details. Whilst it might help you to feel comforted and it might make you feel less lonely with your situation it does not necessarily resolve things! And let us be honest, you can go to people you know such as your neighbours, people at work, friends and family if you just want someone to let you tell them about it or give a view point that maybe does not see YOUR point of view or understand the way you need them to. Only a qualified, experienced full time professional can give you the insight and the knowledge you need when you have a big decision, a question or a crossroads in your life.
Look at the well known advisors there have been to date. Claire Rayner, Deidre Sanders, Marjorie Proops, Virginia Ironside, Anna Raeburn not to mention the males Jerry Springer and Jeremy Kyle who have now taken it upon themselves to join in... all were very well respected as people who sold guidance to those who had less insight and knowledge than them. But they worked for newspapers and magazines and the only way you could approach them was to write to the publication they worked for asking them to write back. You could not consult them individually as an agony aunt and they each had a team of junior staff that helped them. One of their juniors would read your letter and respond to it. They would only show it to their boss if it was juicy and worth publishing in the newspaper or magazine. They would receive so many hoping for individual guidance at no cost that there was no way they could cope without a large team. The downsides to it being dealt this way though are many. The person who reads and replies to your letter is replying to many that day. She will not have much time to read your or to reply to it and she will have moved on to the next one ten minutes later. If you decide you wish to write to them again the odds are that one of the others in the team read the follow up letter so you get no continuity. Very often they would send you a phone number, email address or web site to look up, which is all very well but you might have waited a while month for that and you could have looked that up yourself! Of course, the biggest negative to writing off and waiting a month for a reply is that you are worrying yourself sick while you wait and things can get far worse and get out of control in the meantime. You can hardly turn around to your lover and say to him that you do not know what to do about your relationship with him and his thoughts of leaving you and would he please stay and change his mind while you wait for an advice columnist to read your letter and write back!
How is this different to counselling? It is very, very different. A typical counsellor will ask you what is bothering you and then ask you things such as "what can you do about it?" They ask you questions and try to get you to see how you can take control or what your options are. They would never tell you what they think. So if you are thinking of finishing your relationship with your lover they will ask you things such as whether or not you might regret it one day. But many of us have people around us who can chat to us like this without paying a penny. And if you are very wrapped up in a puzzling or mind boggling decision you are probably not going to be happy with the usual idea of going to see or speak to a counsellor for just one hour a week until it is sorted, this could take forever and cost you a fortune. The expert advisor tells you what they do. They do not listen and then pass it back. This means that they are sticking their neck out on your behalf but it also means they are more knowledgeable than most. A knowledgeable person does not assume that a cross dresser is gay or have to research it to find out. They just know. A good advisor thinks like a detective piecing bits of information and working things out without having to be told it all. The reason that most are not able to SELL guidance is because they are not able to do this.
I have lost count of the amount of times I have read an email from a client and written back or spoken to them on the phone or face to face and told them what they should do and how I know the outcome, and they say "but how can you know that?" and I am always right. You could as easily ask how come some people can act, dance, sing or do anything else that many cannot do. I did not have lessons. In fact I left school at the age of 15 with no qualifications whatsoever. Now ask yourself. Are you here because you need guidance because you yourself have a concern you cannot sort and need help with or are you here because you are knowledgeable and wise and would like to join my team and help me to guide those that do? If you need guidance yourself go here. If you would like to become more knowledgeable so that you can help us get lessons here - there is no charge for them. If you are knowledgeable, mature, experienced in life and wish to help me in guiding our paying customers and earning a high rate while you do it then click here.
Please do not feel embarrassed if you need to turn to us or any professional. Bright people seek out the help they need it is only silly people who continue to ache and feel miserable or keep turning to people who cannot help simply because they know them or because there is no cost. It makes more sense to talk to one person who knows than a hundred who do not - it also saves a great deal of time and making lots of mistakes along the way. It is easy for your family or a friend to tell you to do this or that.. but is their own life so perfect? Are they good at working out what to do about their own stuff? If not how on earth can they know what is best for others? If they cannot sort out their own situations and life then they cannot help you. Do they see things from your point of view? Very often if you know them they will want you to do what suits them rather than what is best for you. They will tell you not to emigrate because they would miss you not because you are better off staying in the country you live in. Let me tell you something, I have lost count of the number of people who have approached us asking us to give them a position (a very well paid one) with us - yet when we find out who and what they are we find out that they have never ever had a responsible or serious position ever before.. some of them cannot even get a badly paid easy position somewhere. They are not asking us to take them on because they are great at making decisions but because they want to be at home with a lot of money coming in. They are not thinking about you and if it is best for you to listen to them. They are just thinking about themselves. Not genuine at all. Some of them get very angry when we politely tell them that they are not skilled enough for the post. You should only listen to people who have proved they can help you. We have.