i love a married man. There are two ways you can end up being invited to get involved with a betrothed guy. Which way he approaches you makes a difference! If you are online he is usually a player, he is on here chatting and looking regularly and he has tried it on with other women before you. He may tell you that you have a very pretty name or whatever he thinks it will take to get you to soften and be less guarded and more interested, but he is simply looking to meet a woman and you will do. If you leave the room and change your name and come back he will say all of the same things to you again and his main concern will be to find out if you live near him and what your age is. If he prefers younger women he will lose interest if he finds out you are older. Many of these men have admitted to me that they regularly pay prostitutes for sex and the reason they look on here to meet is because then the meets would not cost them anything, so they have a lot of reason to hope you are interested.
They may tell you that they and their wife do not talk or that they never make love are just there because of the children, but that is their problem - if it is true - and they should sort it out, not expect you to sit in the wings waiting to cheer them up when they can escape. It is usually the mistress who would end up waiting for calls and meets and being all alone at Christmas. One reason that the married guy often tries to get it together with a woman who is not single - he assumes then that he is guaranteed discretion and that she is as desperate for the whole situation as he is and will not start nagging him to leave his wife or moan when he is not there at Christmas time! But a sexy, young or good looking married lady can easily get a single guy who is more available to see her when it suits her and whether she prefers one or the other she could charge for casual meets..
If someone professes their love for you and tries to get you to be their bit on the side then remember that ifhe really cares about you he would not expect you to have a lonely life waiting around for when he can fit you in. He would be concerned about you having security and happiness. Whatever his reasons are for staying at home with his wife are not your problem. None times out of ten they say it is because of her not being able to cope if he goes or the children but really it is money or having to move out of a nice home. Sometimes they hope to find a new lover who has a lovely home they can move into.
The other way to meet him is where you work, at a club, at a bar or another normal place in the real World, where he is not looking to meet up and somehow you are talking and it just clicks. At least that way you know he is not looking out for meets every day. But unless you just fancy them and want them temporarily and part time can do it without getting emotionally involved or wanting something long term you should still ask yourself if there is any point to this because even if he promises to leave his spouse to be with you he may break that promise or do the same to you in the future. If you are popular you could easily find someone else who could be all yours sooner. If you get into a relationship with him and he has a wife and you he has no reason to leave and change things, he has the best of both Worlds. And no matter what he says once you have agreed to have any sort of meets with him he well lose respect for you. He is far more likely to stay interested in you if you refuse to meet him while he is with someone else. Some do not tie the knot but live with their other halves or see them a lot, it is all the same thing. They have still made a commitment to be true to them and theirs only. Agony aunties 1 2 1 private consultations - community threads - agony aunties words of wisdom
I love a married man.