How to find a partner.  Some have no trouble in attracting someone whereas others do.  Some attract the wrong type, undesirable or unworthy specimens that they would prefer were not interested in them.  How do you get the right type, someone worthy of being your other half or significant other to be interested without getting the wrong type too?


Believe it or not you have to make sure you know exactly what sort you want to attract rather than simply trying to be attractive.  If you want to get players and cheats after you then wearing short tight skirts, low tops that push your breasts out, dirty or sexy chat, will do the trick.  Cheats and players love the idea of finding wome who are sleazy, sex starved and easy, so appear or act easy and you have them.   If your idea of a lover worth having is a caring, faithful, serious type then the short skirts, tight tops and dirty talk would put them off.


There is such a lot of emphasis put  on looks and we are bombarded with advertisements telling us how to look more sexy, glamorous or young, but the truly decent and caring lover, someone who makes a good prospect for a serious relationship or a long relationship,  does not expect us to look sexy, glamorous and young and would prefer a woman who looks intelligent, serious and interesting as well as pretty.  Any guy who decides who to date based solely on her looks and whether or not she dresses sexily is probably only interested in sex, so why bother with him?


When you are trying to find someone online then use this as a guide.  If he goes on about photos, looks, measurements, size, he is shallow or only thinking about sex.  A truly intelligent and decent person would realise that your hobbies, job, lifestyle, background, education, family are as important as your looks if not more so.  Likewise it should be important to you that the guy has more than youth or looks to offer otherwise he might turn out to be the most boring, stupid or nasty partner you have ever had. Any good  agony aunt or uncle will tell you that!


I once had a client who only dated very good looking lovers.  She would go out of her way to be finding them and avoiding any that were not, even if they were very nice. Yet because that was her rule she always ended up with nasty men who lied to her or cheated on her or beat her up.  I told her that if she carried on that way she would end up unhappy.  Your criteria for finding someone should be about more than just one thing.   She moved in with this lover and then married him yet he then became very violent and she felt totally trapped. But she had also been short sighted because she had two young children and she should have thought more about if he was good enough to be their step father too.


Looks alone do not last and even if you only want a casual or short term relationship they are very limited in what they achieve.  Some good looking people are so full of themselves, spending all of their time preening themselves in front of mirrors and all of their energy and money on buying clothes and beauty treatments, is that such a good thing?  For a long term relationship you need someone who has something between their ears and who wants you for more than sex or as an ornament.


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How to find a partner by Charlotte Craig agony aunts.

























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